I’m sharing this with you today because it feels so relevant …

… and the video at the end is a beautiful and stark depiction of how so many of us feel in our lives right now … pressured!

We feel pressure to be remarkable, to do everything, to give our all, to have it all … yet also to be strong and capable and knowing.

No longer does it feel OK to just ‘be’ in this world. There are ambitions, goals, comparisons, and objectives … Home, work, family, relationships – a right and a wrong way to have them. Measured by so many that know so little.

If we are not achieving we are relinquishing – relinquishing our responsibilites, capabilities, gifts, strengths and desires. We feel that we are opting out and not grasping at the elixir of life if we dare to step away from the threshold of what modern society offers.

Society however appears to have become a dictatorship – clinical in its mood and sterile its tone; we as a culture have become responsive to its call.

Life has become more competitive as we each feel a need to justify our seat in the arena of achievement. Yet the juxta pose of this becomes ‘Who am I to …’, a prefix of so much of our daily thinking … ‘go part time, follow my dreams, leave this relationship, change my career, tell my children ‘NO’ … wear that dress’ … etc etc.

Who are we to sit back and just be content in all that today has to offer?

Yet today offers us pressure. If we can project forward to the ‘What if’s’ or even backwards in time, we allow oursleves an alternate reality, one that isn’t here and that isn’t now. We can create a scene or situation that’s more appealing, beautiful and fulfilling … a place without stress or pressure. A place to wish, hope, believe and dream …

Generally speaking, we are not content in what today is offering or tomorrow or next week either. Why? Because we are living as society dictates, in a ‘one shoe fits all’ life that doesn’t represent us as individuals or our own unique abilities. I feel modern, state education is beginning to reflect this now more than ever. It proves very difficult to follow your own tributary to the source of all happiness!

So what is the Source of all happiness?

Well, if I could definitively answer that I’d likely be an incredibly rich and incredibly ‘in demand’ woman by now! However, what I can say is that no body can tell YOU how to be happy!  For me, happiness comes when I listen to the sound of my soul and act on it – nothing too profound, just listening and acknowledging that ‘feeling’ inside when something feels either right or wrong.

We know when a job or relationship is no longer right for us. We know when our body is telling us it’s not coping and we’re aware when we’re called to something more than what we have. Our biggest hurdle to happiness is not taking these niggles on board … we and others tell ourselves ‘you can’t,  you shouldn’t, thats crazy, its irresponsible …’ but that’s only because we’re wearing the same shoes as the bloke next door. We dont work like that and neither does life!

So if its not working, take it out of the equation, if it doesn’t feel right, make it right … if that far distant horizon is calling – go get it! Find your shoe size and start walking around in shoes that fit! Nothing can make a long walk more comfortable or enjoyable than a good pair of well fitting boots!

WE hold the ‘permission slip’ to our own lives, to live it at our own pace, in our own unique way … Be brave and live your life, in your own unique way … EVERY single day!

Here’s to YOUR source of happiness and a well fitting pair of shoes … chin chin!

Steph xx