I’ve had some ‘head versus heart’ stuff going on recently. A conversation that I almost don’t feel quite part of yet caught in the middle of. The quiet, unassuming wisdom of my heart versus the forthright and determined tantrum of my head. Presently I feel like a back seat driver, passively mediating a conversation between the two and allowing each their full expression before I cast the final call.

My heart is the passively assertive director nudging its way into my world. I am aware that it will take no prisoners should it not be heard. My head however will scream and shout and tell the internal world that it’s ‘this way or the highway’.

At the moment I’m not sure how to mediate a resolution between the two but I do know that they each have viable requirements. I trust my heart, it’s voice, it’s wisdom and sincerity in that it always knows what right for me. My head is a little less reliable but always comes up with a good argument for the defence! It’s just that right now I’m unsure of the compromise to be made and neither want to back down.

So I’m bringing my recently lapsed meditation practise back in to the game with a disciplined attendance. I am hoping that amongst the quiet yet assertive echoes of my heart and the dogmatic and formidable force of my head, I may just come up with a solution!

Often when I am facing a minor indecision or a need to become clear on something, I sit quiet, push the issue to one side and focus on my body. I get centred, I concentrate on my breathing and I become mindful. I stay with this for about 10 minutes. When I return to my issue, 8 times out of 10 the answer is clear.

I’ve been teaching and guiding people through the practise of meditation and deep relaxation for a few years now which prompted my development into Hypnotherapy.
One thing people often say in the beginning is ‘I don’t know where to start’, ‘It’s so hard’ or ‘I just can’t do it!’. If you’ve been busy or had a stimulating day, then you’re going to be hard pushed to sit down at the end of it and physically or mentally just ‘let go’. You’ve got to come off the boil – simmer down, collect your thoughts then centre and focus. That takes time, commitment and lots of discipline!

The greatest pitfall in establishing an effective meditation practice, especially in the early stages is not understanding or appreciating that it is a DISCIPLINE.

Discipline as defined by the Oxford dictionary – ‘training that produces orderliness, obedience, self control …’

That just about sums it up!

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