How to be a Fear Freedom Fighter!

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‘Feel the fear and do it anyway’ … right?

… If you’re brave enough, strong enough, desperate enough, then perhaps.

But what if the consequences of ‘doing it anyway’ seem so insurmountable that it’s like asking you to pop on your walking boots and climb to Everest base camp, better still the summit.
For those who say ‘it’ll be fine’ or ‘just do it’ or ‘what have you got to lose’ have never walked your path, worn your shoes or if they have, they’re using their own cognitive processes to rationalise it. 

My mantra used to be, and still is to an extent, ‘Just do it!’ – Nikes tag line. For me it was a great motivator in many aspects of my life … ‘should I’, ‘shouldn’t I’ scenarios where often categorically concluded with the ‘Just do it’ voice in my head. But that was when the agonizing was over stuff that wasn’t defined as life changing or significantly pain staking in any way.

A client of mine has just ‘felt the fear and done it anyway’. A big, fat, scary fear with significant consequences and possible far reaching effects … I’m very proud of that person. Fear represents a wide range of emotional issues. They themselves didn’t define it as fear, they saw it as an infliction on another, a compassionate curbing on consequences yet it still came down to fear. Fear of hurting another, fear of insecurity … fear of the unknown and fear of losing control. Continue reading

How would you like your peas & pear?

Late last year I was diagnosed with the early symptoms of Rheumatoid Arthritis … for anyone this is a major blow. For me it felt greater. My whole belief system and work orientation is the mind / body connection and how mental and emotional responses affect the physical state and therefore disease. Rheumatoid is considered an ‘autoimmune’ condition – medically, your own immune system attacks your own body … self-rejection came to mind and this I could not or would not accept.

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So I asked the heavens … actually I screamed “If this is real and I am attacking my own body then fine, I’ve got some issues to deal with. BUT, if it’s not real and there’s a different theory TELL ME … SHOW ME so I can go and figure it out!!”

The next day I was shopping for a book for a friend’s birthday. I walked out of the shop without her birthday pressie and instead with a book called the ‘Medical Medium’. I’d walked in, picked it up and bought it within a minute … usually I’m a slow motion book browser!

Reading this book showed me that the context of the condition wasn’t necessarily as I’d thought or how the Medical establishment currently assume it to be – rightly or wrongly. I won’t go into the details of the book because basically if you have a chronic condition then you really should read it. This book is however beginning to change many people’s lives. There’s some revelationary info on the underlying causes of some of the most common diseases and a reinforced message on how to completely overhaul your immune system. It gave me hope that there wasn’t a line written underneath this condition which labelled a life of pain, limitation and frustration.

My Mum has suffered with a variation of this disease since she was in her early 40’s – my age. It took a long time to diagnose and I’ve seen that her once, very active life shrink around her with pain, suffering and fear. Her life became a series of medicinal concoctions with adverse side effects and a slowly fading belief that she could overcome it – she believed she would be THE medical marvel that defied this disease. She has made significant progress due to diet and lifestyle changes but sadly this disease has defined her for many years. So if she wasn’t going to be a medical marvel then I’ve decided I will!

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